When you're in a transactional environment, it is expected. For example, if you are a car salesman and someone comes to you with a problem like "what car should I buy?", and your response is, "you should buy X because Y", that is helpful.
Most communications are not contained within a transactional context. If your mother asks "what car should I buy?", responding with "you should buy X because Y" might be 'correct' but what if she was actually reaching out, and that she doesn't actually need a car but it just 'feels' like it'd help?
In such a case you'd be rejecting her attempt at creating belongingness and a chance for empathy ("why do you need a new car mum? what happened?") and instead hit her with a status ("I know more about this than you") and confrontation ("I have resolved what I thought the situation was so now this conversation is over").
This is at least my interpretation of the terminology. If your question wasn't searching for a solution but instead you were reaching out to feel like your perspective belongs, then I apologise if I come across as confrontational, and I do not mean to imply I know more or less than you about the topic.
This sounds a bit like "suggesting a solution too soon means you cut off a fuller discussion about someone's problems, and their surrounding context." Do you think that's an adequate summary?
Still nothing to do with the label “status and confrontation”, which is what I was asking about.
I’m fully aware that sometimes people want empathy and not a solution. But sometimes people do want a solution and it has nothing to do with “status and confrontation”.
Offering a solution/help may in some cases be interpreted as that the person receiving the suggestion is in a position where they need help. -- It's nicer to be in a position where you're a superior receiving help from subordinates, than to receive help because you're in an inferior position.
It's not likely an inexperienced junior will be able to offer meaningful suggestions of improvement to an experienced senior. If the junior makes suggestions to the senior, it's possible the senior will feel disrespected, or that his seniority/experience isn't acknowledged/appreciated. -- By making a suggestion, you're implying that the recipient doesn't know about (or didn't think about) it.
If someone asks for help and doesn't receive it.. it's like they're -1, and not being given a +1.
I don't think author's point is as concrete as "giving help = status related". Just more of an observation that, sometimes people get upset in communication, and mismatching expectations (different cultural styles) around that lead to stepping on toes.
Sometimes what's important is just sharing that you have a problem, and get support. If it's a complicated problem, giving a solution is not the most careful answer you can give. For instance "I just discovered my spouse cheated on me" "oh, leave that asshole now!".
'Suggesting a solution' somewhat indicates that the person receiving the suggestion didn't think of it (or wouldn't have thought of it, or couldn't have thought of it). -- Giving a solution is kinda like "see how helpful I am".
No offense, but if you do understand all that, the answer to your question is obvious and you’re perfectly capable of figuring it out yourself. Whether or not those labels is warranted is another thing, but you can definitely do the legwork on your own. I’d be more interested in engaging with you if your own responses to me and my sibling comments were less, well, confrontational.
If you’re incapable of expressing why it’s related to status and confrontation, it sounds like you don’t really know why they are labeled that way.
I am being confrontational right now because you are spreading bullshit and I have little tolerance for that in online conversations. That doesn’t have any correlation with offering a solution to someone’s issue being “status and confrontation”.
Either provide some justification for why offering someone an advil for a headache when they really wanted you to just commiserate is “status and confrontation”, or just admit that it’s another bullshit social psychology label not based on any logical or scientific rigor.
