I guess this comes down to the definition of actively involved versus overbearing.
There is a fine, fine, fine line to walk between the two. Knowing how your kid is doing, asking questions, and being interested in their schooling is okay. Using it to force action without learning consequence is not.
It is, sometimes, okay for a kid to miss an assignment because they're not great at time management. That's how they learn consequences for their actions.
Anyway, you two have a fundamental disagreement, I believe, about the level of interaction and control required to be involved.
There is a fine, fine, fine line to walk between the two. Knowing how your kid is doing, asking questions, and being interested in their schooling is okay. Using it to force action without learning consequence is not.
It is, sometimes, okay for a kid to miss an assignment because they're not great at time management. That's how they learn consequences for their actions.
Anyway, you two have a fundamental disagreement, I believe, about the level of interaction and control required to be involved.