We shouldn't chalk up her feelings to "her own insecurities" and we should assign them up to a serious lack of diversity in our field, which can make people feel excluded and unsafe.

If we can't acknowledge this woman's feelings seriously then we can't include her. That's not good enough.

I've seen Adria called "delusional", and "in need of therapy" in this thread. It makes me sad to think how quickly and easily we dismiss her.

The joke was innocuous, and I agree that her response was over-proportionate. I agree with you. The difference is I don't blame her for those actions because I think I can see how she felt in that situation. Same way I don't blame Hank for making a stupid joke because I've been there too.