If the dish has bits of e.g. vegetable matter beyond a certain size which would ultimately need to be manually cleaned out the dish washer's filter after some time, then I will at least scrape off the contents of the plate first, and occasionally I may do a 2 second rinse of a plate under my tap.
This is basically what I do. Have never needed to clean out a dishwasher filter and it’s never had a foul smell from food bits. I have a garbage disposal to use for that, or prefer to toss larger waste pieces in the trash directly. Also plates are the low hanging fruit where a simple scrape off is usually enough. Pots, pans, and baking dishes often have more burnt on crustyness that I scrub at for a few seconds and that I just assume would be difficult for the dishwasher to handle or would stick in the filter.
Maybe this is why the quick wash is always enough for my dishes.
I know you said this in jest, but I actually personally do try to not leave little pieces of food on my plate as it saves having to scrape it off later, but I've never even suggested to my wife that she do the same and even if my kids weren't only 3 and 5 years old, I don't think I'd bother asking them.
I’m so glad my wife and I are aligned on the manual rinse thing as I don’t think I could suffer silently. We’ve had enough silly disagreements about other things like how to properly load the dishwasher. After a few decades, she does it her way and I do it my way. The dishes come out clean for both of us so we both deal.
I think we both grew up in households that did full manual washes most of the time even though the dishwasher was there; it was reserved for special occasions like Thanksgiving or Christmas when there really was a lot of dishes.
But are you saying you force yourself to eat all your food, even if you are full or don’t like it, just to avoid scraping it into the trash bin?
Wife and I are like minded when it comes to scraping or rinsing plates before they go into the dishwasher, fortunately.
I don’t force myself to eat all my food, but will typically do so as I tend to serve less than I might need and add a bit more after if I’m still hungry.
What I mean is that while still eating I (kind of pedantically) normally scrape my plate quite clean such that there is nothing to rinse, like every grain of rice for example, in the interests of not having to rinse off anything before it goes in the dishwasher. This is the thing I haven’t bothered to ask my wife to also do.
