> My impression is that FreeBSD is Apple's shadow in FOSS, they hold a lot of soft power over it.
Apple has no influence over the FreeBSD project.
> I know the kernels are different and obviously only part of the userspace is the same, but is FreeBSD actually far enough away from Apple to say it's not bogged down by corporate interests?
Yes.
OS-X (now macOS) is based on XNU[0], which itself has roots in the Mach[1] microkernel. The Unix user-space programs distributed with OS-X/macOS are those found in FreeBSD distributions AFAIK. This is also conformant with FreeBSD licenses for same.
So there is no "soft power" Apple has over FreeBSD. And FreeBSD is not "Apple's shadow in FOSS".
> I don't imagine it's the same as Linux at all, but it exists in a non-trivial way, no?
No. It does not.
EDIT: Just in case you'd like to verify any of the above yourself, see here[2].
Apple has no influence over the FreeBSD project.
> I know the kernels are different and obviously only part of the userspace is the same, but is FreeBSD actually far enough away from Apple to say it's not bogged down by corporate interests?
Yes.
OS-X (now macOS) is based on XNU[0], which itself has roots in the Mach[1] microkernel. The Unix user-space programs distributed with OS-X/macOS are those found in FreeBSD distributions AFAIK. This is also conformant with FreeBSD licenses for same.
So there is no "soft power" Apple has over FreeBSD. And FreeBSD is not "Apple's shadow in FOSS".
> I don't imagine it's the same as Linux at all, but it exists in a non-trivial way, no?
No. It does not.
EDIT: Just in case you'd like to verify any of the above yourself, see here[2].
0 - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/XNU
1 - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mach_(kernel)
2 - https://github.com/apple-oss-distributions/xnu