you might want to figure out what kind of person you are early in life (as in mid 20s early) and what do you need in life in terms of company
it took me 30 years to really understand what i need in life in terms of company. going by my feelings in my 20s i would have missed the things that actually matter. when i got married i had a long checklist of things that i thought would matter, but later i realized that many of those things didn't matter and some things that did matter were missing.
today i can say that what matters to me first and foremost is absolute support and loyalty and an extreme gentleness. because those are in my character and it works better if it goes both ways.
in my 20s i was completely unaware of these traits, so i would not have been able to look for them.
it should be noted that i believe that loyalty and support belong in every marriage, and the issue here is that we are not teaching our children how to be good partners or friends. and we really should be doing that more
it took me 30 years to really understand what i need in life in terms of company. going by my feelings in my 20s i would have missed the things that actually matter. when i got married i had a long checklist of things that i thought would matter, but later i realized that many of those things didn't matter and some things that did matter were missing.
today i can say that what matters to me first and foremost is absolute support and loyalty and an extreme gentleness. because those are in my character and it works better if it goes both ways.
in my 20s i was completely unaware of these traits, so i would not have been able to look for them.
it should be noted that i believe that loyalty and support belong in every marriage, and the issue here is that we are not teaching our children how to be good partners or friends. and we really should be doing that more