I mean, yes, but I am the only person that I care about in this instance. The fact that I am who it didn't work out for is what matters to me. I'm not a sociologist. I've been doing the cafe thing all throughout my adult life in three different US states, and I've honestly never seen organic socializing happen that way (apart from some unfortunate incidents with creeps and cranks). Maybe there's some environment where you've seen it work, but I have tried and never succeeded.