> What I wanted to express is that you should hold back on interpretation.
Yes, agreed. Also, if you interpret then say explicitly that 'my interpretation / perception / feeling based on fact X is Y, and feel free to disagree with the interpretation'. Eg. "Maybe you just simply forget checking things locally -- do you think it would help to set up a commit hook or do you have other ideas about we could help you not breaking the build?"
So you
1) declare the facts (breaking the build too often), there's no argument about those
2) state your expectations as a manager (this has to stop), the person can disagree but it's your decision as a manager to set expectations
3) offer one or more possible interpretation, the person can agree or disagree
Yes, agreed. Also, if you interpret then say explicitly that 'my interpretation / perception / feeling based on fact X is Y, and feel free to disagree with the interpretation'. Eg. "Maybe you just simply forget checking things locally -- do you think it would help to set up a commit hook or do you have other ideas about we could help you not breaking the build?"
So you
1) declare the facts (breaking the build too often), there's no argument about those
2) state your expectations as a manager (this has to stop), the person can disagree but it's your decision as a manager to set expectations
3) offer one or more possible interpretation, the person can agree or disagree
4) offer your help, the person can take it or not