I like the list, but don't like the adversarial tone. I don't think it's me vs. men all the time. Some men are jerks, most are not. More actionables:
* Remove "just" from your vocabulary, emails, talks, everything. "I just want you to be aware that ..." "I'm just doing this to..." "It's just that ..." "Just making sure ..." Trim 100%.
* Bake cakes, participate in office pot-lucks or whatever. Never be part of the setup/cleanup crew (have you noticed they are almost always women, admins type). This makes you a jerk, true, but disassociates you from the soft-skills crew. Until the cleanup crew becomes frequently and mostly men, stay away.
* You're eventually going to have to fight for something you care about. Pick battles 1) that you can win; 2) with someone above your weight. How do you become a blackbelt? By beating a blackbelt. It's no thing to gainsay some design decision made by the FNG, better to convert a decision made by someone seen as your technical equivalent or superior.
* Remove "just" from your vocabulary, emails, talks, everything. "I just want you to be aware that ..." "I'm just doing this to..." "It's just that ..." "Just making sure ..." Trim 100%.
* Bake cakes, participate in office pot-lucks or whatever. Never be part of the setup/cleanup crew (have you noticed they are almost always women, admins type). This makes you a jerk, true, but disassociates you from the soft-skills crew. Until the cleanup crew becomes frequently and mostly men, stay away.
* You're eventually going to have to fight for something you care about. Pick battles 1) that you can win; 2) with someone above your weight. How do you become a blackbelt? By beating a blackbelt. It's no thing to gainsay some design decision made by the FNG, better to convert a decision made by someone seen as your technical equivalent or superior.