You're either going to have your kids resent you or stunt the maturation of their independence (the whole point of the teenage phase). You think you're doing the right thing but you're going to most likely create hyper dependent young adults.
I disagree, but I have the advantage of knowing the whole story of how they are raised, while you are extrapolating the entire experience from a couple paragraphs about reading text messages with my child.
"they take one bite and feel full"- I strongly disagree with this as the reason some people are just lean.
As someone who's bounced around weight a lot and also had long periods where I had to basically control it (wrestling in college), the main difference I've seen with people who are in shape and people are overeat is that the former group understands that it's 'ok' to not feel full all the time. As in like learning the TRUE difference between appetite and hunger.
I've had periods where I gained 50lb in like 4 months (start of pandemic) and all I had to do to basically get back to baseline is remind myself that I'm not going to die just bc I'm not constantly full.
But i definitely don't get 'full' after a few bites. I can keep eating and eating for sure. It's more that being what we call traditionally "full" is actually just wayyyyy overeating.
When I'm on vacation my stress is reduced to the point where my 'appetite' drops, and this is despite the fact that I'm increasing my exercise load enormously (surfing, hiking, etc...)
I've noticed that stress causes me mild stomach pain, which can register as hunger. It also causes dry mouth which registers as thirst. If you're satisfying that thirst with sugary drinks long term, then you're going to be in trouble.
There is also so much novelty and more interesting stuff going on while on vacation that I don't find myself poking through the fridge out of boredom.
I also lose so much weight on vacation it's weird. I once lost weight when visiting Japan for two weeks but I swore I was going crazy with the food, so I was confused. But I still managed to eat less than at home (I must have). Definitely a busyness thing.
Im the opposite when it comes to stress. I lose my appetite when I'm stressed but get super super hungry when bored. The lockdowns really messed up my eating habits but thankfully I've shed all the weight now that I can actually do stuff again.
Oh buddy... you're not normal. If you're yoyoing 50 pounds then you also have the eating disorder.
Trust me on this. I also thought it was a self-control thing. It's not at all. When you're normal you actually get full. I don't mean telling yourself you are full, actually full. You do not want to eat anymore. You don't want chocolate straight after eating dinner. You don't go to the fridge randomly to get snacks. You actually have no desire for food. You voluntarily stop eating during meals because you don't want to eat anymore.
It's something you can't really comprehend without experiencing it because you've experienced a lifetime of the hunger constantly telling you to eat. The idea that you could just... not want to eat is just absurd. But that's how it feels. When a normal person eats a small meal and says they are full, they are actually full. There's no self-control for them, no screaming voice or impulses.
Miswrote: I don't yo-yo 50lb normally. Only once during the pandemic gained that much and I was purposely eating like shit bc I was angry with the lockdown situation and had nothing else to do. Just used that as an example that if I actually just eat as much as I want (like eat till I'm full-full 3x a day) with no control, I'd be 50lb heavier. But 95% of my adult life post college (9+ years), I hover around the same weight.
I guess I understand what you mean that you'd think that every skinny person must actually be full after eating and that's why they're like that, but everyone I know who is in shape (like really in shape, either ex college athlete or lives the gym life now and would be considered top 5% of the population), they absolutely do not feel full every meal/day. I mean talking about planning cheat meals and fantasizing about certain foods is super common in the fitness lifestyle.
I've met maybe 3 people in my entire life who have what you're describing: they truly don't care about food and can forget to eat meals if distracted. All the others have some form of habit/routine and wish they could eat more and stay lean.
I'm not discounting that some people really struggle with eating habits and literally cannot stop thinking to eat more (I have family members like that) but I do heavily disagree that 'normal' people are always full quickly and that's why they are 'normal' weight.
If it was a simple normal/not normal appetite wiring then why do most major cities contain way more skinny people and places like Mississippi are almost 50% obese? Or the fact that obesity was pretty rare 100 years ago. I think there's a lot more going on than just 'normal people get full quicker'.
You mention to not build the website, iOS app, and Android app all at once before getting market fit. Which of the three would you start with to quickly iterate and get feedback?
When you mention that you had to often walk into like a scuba shop to try to get a sign on, were people more receptive if you 'had an app for that' already?
Do Flutter and cover all 3. Okay Flutter Web is pretty bad, but if you are cash strapped and need to move fast, Flutter is the way to go.
I expect more and more startups to embrace Flutter, it is easily currently the best solution on the market (for 99% of app ideas).
Yes native will always be better, but if you are a startup, your focus should be building an MVP and getting to product-market-fit as fast as possible at the lowest cost.
If your idea is one in which users are more than marginally committed (so not a marketplace where people buy only once on vacation) then you can avoid the flutter web problems by shipping it as a desktop app. Flutter on desktop is very responsive and it has the advantage that it's the native environment with the real Dart VM. Also if you want to do anything with hardware then it's a good way to go.
Curious, why not React Native? I never heard anything bad about it in Android and iOS (except maybe the resource usage) and at least Microsoft is putting RN as first-tier framework in Windows nowadays.
Honestly, for me the Development experience on Flutter is better by a factor of 10. I have only used RN in small quantities, but when I used it, I always had some problems. Be it with Flow itself (just give me TS), or with Metro (crashing for no reasons), or stuff constantly breaking with any RN/SDK update.
With Flutter everything just works. I love Dart and the Dart analyser. The documentation is phenomenal and the speed at which I can pump out an app is crazy compared to other solutions.
Don't get me wrong, Flutter has an abundance of its own issues (iOS jank, Flutter web, too many state management solutions) but it still at the end of the day it does the best possible job.
If I have a random app idea which needs to be tested and deployed quickly, I am using Flutter 10 times out of 10.
If you're using Expo (which I assume most are on RN) they have web support. This is via React Native Web, which is a separate project if you wanted to use that directly too.
Personally though, I've found the DX of Flutter far above RN. I always had random packages break on RN that I had to fix every time, while with Flutter most of what you need is already included in the framework, including a component UI library for Android and iOS.
If they can survive the cuts then I definitely have hope. I liked Dart enough to be happy with using it; I like the Flutter ecosystem in general as well. It'll be interesting times in app development if they can make a better cross-platform solution than currently exists.
The HTML renderer is actually what was first, canvas came later. The canvas is the first class implementation while the HTML one is a fallback for mobile performance and I assume if canvas is fast enough, HTML will be dropped as well.
It can often be a lot slower and laggier than the mobile and desktop experiences, for whatever reason. However they are working on improving it with WASM, Impeller (a new renderer which should be faster by being more suitable for Flutter specifically instead of Skia which was more general purpose), and so on.
I'm not sure if there's an easy answer. It depends on the business and where your users already are. Sometimes that means mobile, sometimes that means the web, or sometimes it might be some plugin or extension to an existing tool.
why not just a progressive webapp at first? if you don't have massive native requirements like reading text messages, and don't want to shell out $200k, and are not pressed for more distribution channels like appstores...
Main reason I've heard from mostly Latin/south American people on visa who consider staying past the expiration is that you can then never leave to visit family or visit any other country.
It's definitely common to just 'stay' but you better be prepared to stay the rest of your life.
Note this is from talking to people who enter legally but then consider staying illegally, not those who enter illegally.
When I had to visit for work few months back they specifically said I was not allowed to park in SF. So it seems that if the car is damaged while there the rental company is going to make you pay, even if you're the victim of the crime.
They do: "Also, anytime I do a blurry photo I have the couple do the same thing but in focus so the couple has both images and is not missing out on a moment from their wedding day.”
For me it was the camera + price combo. The Samsung cameras are probably better on the flagship phones but the prices for those phones are insane. iPhone price is obviously even worse and I really don't like the camera and how iPhone applies edits automatically, even to the RAW files.
I do a lot of photography and the Pixel 6 Pro with the wide angle lens plus dedicated Telephoto 4x zoom lens covers like 90% of my needs. Other than true long exposure, super low light night shots, macro, and astrophotography, my Pixel 6 is great.
None of the Samsung cameras really come close to Pixels.
Owning both Pixel 6 and Galaxy S22+, the S22 has a massive problem with slow shutter, movement and dark scenes (this issue I've observed on S22 Ultra as well).
So while Samsung might look better on paper, Pixel consistently takes better picture due to more responsive shutter and less blurry pictures.
Same. And after a few days the "photos" app will post some AI enhanced versions of the good shots. Some are ok, some are not much better, but occasionally it makes the photo 100x better. It's pretty amazing.
The phone is pretty nice, good screen, long battery life ....
Can a person here on visa apply for Tourist Visa and await the deicision while saying in the US (being out of status but staying here due to the pandemic)?
I made a comment before but I believe it was too specific of a case so I apologize. The general question is more my concern.
Yes, an application for a change of status to visitor status, if filed before the person's current status expires, would allow that person to stay in the US while the application is pending (even if the person's previous underlying status expires). Of course I can't comment on whether that application would be approved.
Hello! My girlfriend is currently an au paire on J-1 Visa but wants to leave her current host family due to bad work conditions. She will attempt a rematch to find a new family and continue working under the program.
However, she knows some au paires in similar situations who filed for Tourist Visa whole working and still in the US, and then stopped working while waiting and being 'out of status' but remaining in the US due to the current conditions.
Would she be able quit her family, apply for tourist visa now, and stay with me during the lockdown while awaiting the decision (not working of course)?
Yes, she could file a change of status to B-2 visitor status and while her application is pending, she could remain in the US. But this application should be filed before she quits her J-1 employment and note that there is no guarantee that her application will be approved.
Thank you thank you thank you!! Omg what a relief for her. Her current host family is acting hostile to her, making her work 80+ hours a week during this lockdown bc of course the kids have no school and telling her that they will keep her locked in until a vaccine is ready, even if the gov eases lockdown rules.
She was getting desperate and her mental health was deteriorating due to the uncertainty of her options.
